2008-09-28T19:39:07Z

John Abbe:

A core aspect of this exercise is to have participants discover NVC principles for themselves, through their own experience.

= Purpose =

To explore deeply why we want things, and the relationship between those deep reasons and the specific things that might satisfy those reasons. Also gives many participants a quick taste of empathy without having to first explain it.

(segues well into [[Eliciting needs list exercise]])

= Exercise =

== Working in pairs ==

1. Think of something specific you want a specific person to do, and write down what you want to ask them.

Facilitator: Share an example from your own life, preferably something that is actually alive for you in the moment. The example that I first used was that I was staying in different places in Colombo and had too much stuff to carry around. A friend offered her place to store my extra things for six months, then after two months wanted me to move them out, offering another friend's house, outside Colombo.

I wrote, "I want you to continue keeping my things at your house."

2. Now, consider ''why'' do you want it? This is not an intellectual question, but about sensing inside - what will you get out of having it, why does it matter to you?

Facilitator: Invite people to turn to the person next to them and share their situation, discover an answer to this question and write it down.

I wrote, "I will have easier access to my things."

3. Now try for an even deeper reason. Forget what you wrote down for number 1 - why do you want what you wrote for number 2? Again, this is about sensing inside - what would you get, why does it matter to you?

This time also make sure you find something you feel good about. For my example, I might say, "because I'm lazy" but I don't feel good about that, so I would keep looking for something else.

Facilitator: Again invite people to turn to the person next to them and explore this question until they can write something down. (If people get stuck, it might help to think about what would happen if they don't get what they are wanting.)

I wrote, "So that i'll have time for more meaningful activities. Also, I would know that I'm cared for."

== Debrief ==

Below are some questions to elicit their learning from the exercise. For each one, go through several people's situations. If someone did not get to a need (or deep enough for some shift to occur) in their step 3, give them some verbal empathy until they do get some shift.

In parentheses are some key points you might bring up if people don't come to them on their own. But keep in mind that their learning will be much more powerful if they discover and share among themselves. If you notice yourself starting to talk at length, find a way to wrap up and go back to inviting their learning. See if you can come up with additional questions that help people learn things that you would share if you were lecturing. Be willing to be surprised, and follow where they lead.

If people are stimulated by some of the resulting learnings, remember to offer empathy first. Once there is some connection, you might ask others what they think of the stimulating idea, or offer your own understandings or experiences.

== Questions ==

A. Does anyone feel differently about their situation now than you did before this exercise? How?

(Being connected to why we want something can be valuable whether needs are being met or not - e.g. peace of mind, understanding ourselves/others. In this context, also might ask the empathizers what it what it's like to listen, to be in that role.)

B. How do you think the other person would respond if you told them your reasons (2 & 3) as well as the specific thing you want them to do (1)?

(We are generally more moved to help when we understand why someone is asking.)

C. Imagine you had to choose between 1 and 3. Which would you want?

(Make sure the choice is painfully obvious - i.e., 3 is a need, or nearly so. If they haven't reached that depth yet, offer verbal empathy until they get there.)

D. Other than 1, come up with several other ways that you could satisfy 3?

(There's always more than one strategy to meet a need. Use one person's situation as an example - preferably one in which they've come to a need themselves - come up with three different strategies that would also meet that need.)

E. Is there anything else you noticed or learned from doing this?

= Notes and possibilities =

As i keep doing this, i find it often leads organically into many of the other important elements of NVC - explicitly talking about [[empathy]], the spiritual aspects of NVC, and more. One direction some have suggested is to continue the exercise as described below ("What causes our reactions/emotions?") --[[User:John Abbe|John Abbe]] 21:28, 28 September 2008 (CEST)

'''What are your''' experiences offering (or receiving, or reading) this approach?

== What causes our reactions/emotions ==

Something to explore relating to what causes our reactions/emotions:

Get back into pairs with these questions:

How would it be for you if the person said no?
How would it be if they said yes?

...then to in the whole group ask what is the cause of those reactions?

(Allow the conversation to go where it will for a while. If it doesn't go to this by itself, ask how it is to imagine the cause is 1. And ask how it is to imagine the cause is 3. Especially, how powerful do you feel imagining it's 1 vs. 3?)

== Offering it about social change ==

Change the initial question to be about something that they would like to ask someone to do about making different?
To accomplish that, what exactly would you ask, and of whom?

= See also =
* There are a few other [[Learner centered differentiation exercises]]
* [[Need vs. Strategy or request]]

Needs vs. Strategies exercise

2008-09-28T19:28:56Z

John Abbe: Updated with some new possibilities

A core aspect of this exercise is to have participants discover NVC principles for themselves, through their own experience.

= Purpose =

To explore deeply why we want things, and the relationship between those deep reasons and the specific things that might satisfy those reasons. Also gives many participants a quick taste of empathy without having to first explain it.

(segues well into [[Eliciting needs list exercise]])

= Exercise =

== Working in pairs ==

1. Think of something specific you want a specific person to do, and write down what you want to ask them.

Facilitator: Share an example from your own life, preferably something that is actually alive for you in the moment. The example that I first used was that I was staying in different places in Colombo and had too much stuff to carry around. A friend offered her place to store my extra things for six months, then after two months wanted me to move them out, offering another friend's house, outside Colombo.

I wrote, "I want you to continue keeping my things at your house."

2. Now, consider ''why'' do you want it? This is not an intellectual question, but about sensing inside - what will you get out of having it, why does it matter to you?

Facilitator: Invite people to turn to the person next to them and share their situation, discover an answer to this question and write it down.

I wrote, "I will have easier access to my things."

3. Now try for an even deeper reason. Forget what you wrote down for number 1 - why do you want what you wrote for number 2? Again, this is about sensing inside - what would you get, why does it matter to you?

This time also make sure you find something you feel good about. For my example, I might say, "because I'm lazy" but I don't feel good about that, so I would keep looking for something else.

Facilitator: Again invite people to turn to the person next to them and explore this question until they can write something down. (If people get stuck, it might help to think about what would happen if they don't get what they are wanting.)

I wrote, "So that i'll have time for more meaningful activities. Also, I would know that I'm cared for."

== Debrief ==

Below are some questions to elicit their learning from the exercise. For each one, go through several people's situations. If someone did not get to a need (or deep enough for some shift to occur) in their step 3, give them some verbal empathy until they do get some shift.

In parentheses are some key points you might bring up if people don't come to them on their own. But keep in mind that their learning will be much more powerful if they discover and share among themselves. If you notice yourself starting to talk at length, find a way to wrap up and go back to inviting their learning. See if you can come up with additional questions that help people learn things that you would share if you were lecturing. Be willing to be surprised, and follow where they lead.

If people are stimulated by some of the resulting learnings, remember to offer empathy first. Once there is some connection, you might ask others what they think of the stimulating idea, or offer your own understandings or experiences.

== Questions ==

A. Does anyone feel differently about their situation now than you did before this exercise? How?

(Being connected to why we want something can be valuable whether needs are being met or not - e.g. peace of mind, understanding ourselves/others. In this context, also might ask the empathizers what it what it's like to listen, to be in that role.)

B. How do you think the other person would respond if you told them your reasons (2 & 3) as well as the specific thing you want them to do (1)?

(We are generally more moved to help when we understand why someone is asking.)

C. Imagine you had to choose between 1 and 3. Which would you want?

(Make sure the choice is painfully obvious - i.e., 3 is a need, or nearly so. If they haven't reached that depth yet, offer verbal empathy until they get there.)

D. Other than 1, come up with several other ways that you could satisfy 3?

(There's always more than one strategy to meet a need. Use one person's situation as an example - preferably one in which they've come to a need themselves - come up with three different strategies that would also meet that need.)

E. Is there anything else you noticed or learned from doing this?

= Notes and possibilities =

As i keep doing this, i find it often leads organically into many of the other important elements of NVC - explicitly talking about [[empathy]], the spiritual aspects of NVC, and more. One direction some have suggested is to continue the exercise as described below ("What causes our reactions/emotions?") --[[User:John Abbe|John Abbe]] 21:28, 28 September 2008 (CEST)

What are ''your'' experiences offering (or receiving, or reading) this approach?

== What causes our reactions/emotions ==

Something to explore relating to what causes our reactions/emotions:

Get back into pairs with these questions:

How would it be for you if the person said no?
How would it be if they said yes?

...then to in the whole group ask what is the cause of those reactions?

(Allow the conversation to go where it will for a while. If it doesn't go to this by itself, ask how it is to imagine the cause is 1. And ask how it is to imagine the cause is 3. Especially, how powerful do you feel imagining it's 1 vs. 3?)

== Offering it about social change ==

Change the initial question to be about something that they would like to ask someone to do about making different?
To accomplish that, what exactly would you ask, and of whom?

= See also =
* There are a few other [[Learner centered differentiation exercises]]
* [[Need vs. Strategy or request]]

Key differentiations

2008-09-28T19:09:10Z

John Abbe: restoring last complete version

Some key differentiations in [[Nonviolent Communication]]. Note that in none of these cases are we judging these as right and wrong, we are just trying to be clear, and often suggesting that one approach or the other might produce better results. Try things out for yourself!

==Differentiations about the [[four part model]]==
* [[Observation vs. Evaluation]]
* [[Feeling vs. Thought]]
* [[Need vs. Strategy or request]]
* [[Request vs. Demand]]
* [[Persisting vs. Demanding]]

==Differentiations about empathy==
* [[Being giraffe vs. Doing giraffe]]
* [[Empathy vs. Sympathy]]
* [[Empathy vs. Advice]]
* [[Empathy vs. Analysis]]
* [[Empathy vs. Reassurance]]
* [[Empathy vs. Storytelling]]
* [[Guessing vs. Knowing]]
* [[Empathic sensing vs. Intellectual guessing]]
* Ten non-empathic forms: advising, one-upping, educating, consoling, story telling, shutting down, sympathising, interrogating, explaining, correcting (see the nvc book).

==Jackal/Giraffe differentiations==
* [[Power-with vs. Power-over]]
* [[Choice vs. Submission or rebellion]]
* [[Interdependence vs. Dependence or independence]]
* [[Giraffe honesty vs. Jackal honesty]]
* [[Protective use of force vs. Punitive use of force]]
* [[Appreciation vs. Approval, compliments or praise]]
* [[Value judgment vs. Moralistic judgment]]
* [[Life-connected vs. Life-alienated]]
* [[Shift vs. Compromise]]
* [[Respect for authority vs. Fear of authority]]
* [[Vulnerability vs. Weakness]]
* [[Self-empathy vs. Acting out, repressing, or wallowing]]
* [[Being nice vs. Giraffe]]

==Miscellaneous==
* [[Idiomatic giraffe vs. Classical giraffe]]
* [[Stimulus vs. Cause]]
* [[Natural vs. Habitual]]
* [[Love as a need vs. Love as a feeling]]
* [[Mourning vs. Giving up]]
* [[Self-discipline vs. Obedience]]
* [[Instrinsic motivation vs. Extrinsic motivation]]
* [[Self & other vs. Jackal & giraffe]]
* [[Exchange vs. Gifting]]
* [[Inspiration vs. Motivation]]

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==Origins==

This list was originally compiled from notes from [[User:John Abbe|John Abbe]] (from a session with [[User:Marshall Rosenberg|Marshall Rosenberg]] at an [[IIT]]) and [[User:Neill Gibson|Neill Gibson]] (from ?), and the (copyrighted) key differentiations list in CNVC's trainer certification packet. [http://cnvc.org/trnrtobe_en.htm] It has evolved since then with the additions and changes of other wiki participants.

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Internet Relay Chat

2008-09-26T04:42:52Z

John Abbe:

<b>Web access to NVC chat on IRC is available by [http://ourpla.net/nvcchat.html clicking here].</b>

Internet Relay Chat (IRC) is a live, instant messaging system that requires no registration. Much of the time there is someone into [[NVC]] on IRC who might enjoy giving you empathy, helping with questions about the wiki, or just connecting.

There's also standalone software for IRC, here's what we recommend for different systems (to get to the channel with these systems, here's the server: irc.freenode.net and channel: #nvc):

* Mac - [http://colloquy.info/ Colloquy]
* Windows - [http://www.mirc.com/get.html mIRC], [https://www.ceruleanstudios.com/ Trillian],
* Linux - [http://www.kvirc.net kvirc], ksirc
* Cross-platform:
** [http://www.mozilla.org/projects/rt-messaging/chatzilla/ Chatzilla] (an <b>Add-on for [http://www.mozilla.com/firefox/ Firefox]</b>, which lets you just click on this link to connect: irc://irc.freenode.net#nvc )
** [http://gaim.sourceforge.net/downloads.php GAIM] (Linux and Windows)

Internet Relay Chat

2008-09-26T04:25:33Z

John Abbe:

<b>Web access to NVC chat on IRC is available by [http://ourpla.net/nvcchat.html clicking here].</b>

Internet Relay Chat (IRC) is a live, instant messaging system that requires no registration. Often there is someone into [[NVC]] on IRC who might enjoy giving you empathy, helping with questions about the wiki, or just connecting.

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In addition to the web-based access above (which uses http://mibbit.com/), there's also standalone software for IRC. Here's what we recommend for different systems (to get to the channel with these systems, here's the server: irc.freenode.net and channel: #nvc):

* Mac - [http://colloquy.info/ Colloquy]
* Windows - [http://www.mirc.com/get.html mIRC], [https://www.ceruleanstudios.com/ Trillian],
* Linux - [http://www.kvirc.net kvirc], ksirc
* Cross-platform:
** [http://www.mozilla.org/projects/rt-messaging/chatzilla/ Chatzilla] (an <b>Add-on for [http://www.mozilla.com/firefox/ Firefox]</b>, which lets you just click on this link to connect: irc://irc.freenode.net#nvc )
** [http://gaim.sourceforge.net/downloads.php GAIM] (Linux and Windows)

Internet Relay Chat

2008-09-26T04:23:36Z

John Abbe:

Main Page

2008-09-26T04:11:50Z

John Abbe: /* Projects using the wiki */

__NOTOC__
Welcome to NVC Wiki - a [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wiki wiki] for [[Nonviolent Communication]] (NVC).

'''Help''' with '''[[Help:Contents| NVCwiki]]''', and more detailed help for '''[http://meta.wikimedia.org/wiki/MediaWiki_User's_Guide#For_readers reading]''' and for '''[http://meta.wikimedia.org/wiki/MediaWiki_User's_Guide#For_editors editing]'''.

To register and be able to contribute to the NVC wiki, please send your requested username to '''[mailto:nvcwiki@gmail.com nvcwiki@gmail.com]'''. Everyone is welcome. (Registration is done by email, until we find a better solution, as spam bots were registering automatically and spamming the wiki pages.)

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==General NVC topics==
*<B>[[ NVC_Groups | NVC regional groups websites]]</b> - click to add yours or see others
*[[Sociocracy in NVC | Sociocracy in NVC]]
*[[Education]]
*[[Spirituality]]
*[[Social change]]
*[[Restorative justice]]
*[[Parenting]]
*[[NVC in Business]]
----
*[[Listening with Empathy]] and [[Expressing Honestly]]
*The basic [[Four part model]]
*[[Key differentiations]]

==Resources ==
*[[Materials]]
*[[Stories]]
*[[Literature]]
*[[Songs]]
*[[Quotes]]
*[[Practice group exercises]]
*[[NVC Mentorship and Coaching Directory|Mentorship and Coaching]]

[[Mailing lists]] about Nonviolent Communication

[[Links]] to NVC resources outside this wiki

[[Media]] resources - free NVC audio and video.

[[Internet Relay Chat]] to talk with persons interested in NVC

==Other NVC wikis==

There are [[many NVC wikis]]. What to do?

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'''[[Feedback | Feedback of wiki users]]'''

'''[[NVC Wiki Technical Issues]]'''

'''[[Administration News]]'''

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==Projects using the wiki==

[[NVC IT Status]] - The [[CNVC IT Committee]]

[[CNVC Board]] - Working space for Board

[[CNVC LT]] - Leadership Team (LT)

[[CNVC GCC]] - GCC circle & Network Coordinators

[[Internet Relay Chat]] ([http://ourpla.net/nvcchat.html click here]) or [[Instant_Messaging_Network | NVCtalk]] - two ways to connect live about NVC

[[NVC Research Circle]] - NVC Research Information

[[NVC USA Project]] - planned the '06 NVC USA conference [[Compassion In Action]], may do another

[[American Summer Festival]] planning

==News==
*'''Description:''' [[CNVC Office Manager Position]] 3/08.
*About the '''[[CNVC Office Move]]''' from LA to ABQ.

==People using the wiki==
Photos and words - [[People using the wiki]]

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Main Page

2008-09-26T04:11:36Z

John Abbe: /* Projects using the wiki */

__NOTOC__
Welcome to NVC Wiki - a [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wiki wiki] for [[Nonviolent Communication]] (NVC).

'''Help''' with '''[[Help:Contents| NVCwiki]]''', and more detailed help for '''[http://meta.wikimedia.org/wiki/MediaWiki_User's_Guide#For_readers reading]''' and for '''[http://meta.wikimedia.org/wiki/MediaWiki_User's_Guide#For_editors editing]'''.

To register and be able to contribute to the NVC wiki, please send your requested username to '''[mailto:nvcwiki@gmail.com nvcwiki@gmail.com]'''. Everyone is welcome. (Registration is done by email, until we find a better solution, as spam bots were registering automatically and spamming the wiki pages.)

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{| width="100%"
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==General NVC topics==
*<B>[[ NVC_Groups | NVC regional groups websites]]</b> - click to add yours or see others
*[[Sociocracy in NVC | Sociocracy in NVC]]
*[[Education]]
*[[Spirituality]]
*[[Social change]]
*[[Restorative justice]]
*[[Parenting]]
*[[NVC in Business]]
----
*[[Listening with Empathy]] and [[Expressing Honestly]]
*The basic [[Four part model]]
*[[Key differentiations]]

==Resources ==
*[[Materials]]
*[[Stories]]
*[[Literature]]
*[[Songs]]
*[[Quotes]]
*[[Practice group exercises]]
*[[NVC Mentorship and Coaching Directory|Mentorship and Coaching]]

[[Mailing lists]] about Nonviolent Communication

[[Links]] to NVC resources outside this wiki

[[Media]] resources - free NVC audio and video.

[[Internet Relay Chat]] to talk with persons interested in NVC

==Other NVC wikis==

There are [[many NVC wikis]]. What to do?

-----

'''[[Feedback | Feedback of wiki users]]'''

'''[[NVC Wiki Technical Issues]]'''

'''[[Administration News]]'''

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<div style="padding:0.3em 1em 0.7em 1em; background-color:#f8f8ff;">

==Projects using the wiki==

[[NVC IT Status]] - The [[CNVC IT Committee]]

[[CNVC Board]] - Working space for Board

[[CNVC LT]] - Leadership Team (LT)

[[CNVC GCC]] - GCC circle & Network Coordinators

[[Internet Relay Chat]] ([[http://ourpla.net/nvcchat.html click here]]) or [[Instant_Messaging_Network | NVCtalk]] - two ways to connect live about NVC

[[NVC Research Circle]] - NVC Research Information

[[NVC USA Project]] - planned the '06 NVC USA conference [[Compassion In Action]], may do another

[[American Summer Festival]] planning

==News==
*'''Description:''' [[CNVC Office Manager Position]] 3/08.
*About the '''[[CNVC Office Move]]''' from LA to ABQ.

==People using the wiki==
Photos and words - [[People using the wiki]]

</div>

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Main Page

2008-09-26T04:10:15Z

John Abbe: typos, link fix, added Internet Relay Chat link

__NOTOC__
Welcome to NVC Wiki - a [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wiki wiki] for [[Nonviolent Communication]] (NVC).

'''Help''' with '''[[Help:Contents| NVCwiki]]''', and more detailed help for '''[http://meta.wikimedia.org/wiki/MediaWiki_User's_Guide#For_readers reading]''' and for '''[http://meta.wikimedia.org/wiki/MediaWiki_User's_Guide#For_editors editing]'''.

To register and be able to contribute to the NVC wiki, please send your requested username to '''[mailto:nvcwiki@gmail.com nvcwiki@gmail.com]'''. Everyone is welcome. (Registration is done by email, until we find a better solution, as spam bots were registering automatically and spamming the wiki pages.)

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{| width="100%"
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==General NVC topics==
*<B>[[ NVC_Groups | NVC regional groups websites]]</b> - click to add yours or see others
*[[Sociocracy in NVC | Sociocracy in NVC]]
*[[Education]]
*[[Spirituality]]
*[[Social change]]
*[[Restorative justice]]
*[[Parenting]]
*[[NVC in Business]]
----
*[[Listening with Empathy]] and [[Expressing Honestly]]
*The basic [[Four part model]]
*[[Key differentiations]]

==Resources ==
*[[Materials]]
*[[Stories]]
*[[Literature]]
*[[Songs]]
*[[Quotes]]
*[[Practice group exercises]]
*[[NVC Mentorship and Coaching Directory|Mentorship and Coaching]]

[[Mailing lists]] about Nonviolent Communication

[[Links]] to NVC resources outside this wiki

[[Media]] resources - free NVC audio and video.

[[Internet Relay Chat]] to talk with persons interested in NVC

==Other NVC wikis==

There are [[many NVC wikis]]. What to do?

-----

'''[[Feedback | Feedback of wiki users]]'''

'''[[NVC Wiki Technical Issues]]'''

'''[[Administration News]]'''

| style="vertical-align:top; width:48%;" |


<div style="padding:0.3em 1em 0.7em 1em; background-color:#f8f8ff;">

==Projects using the wiki==

[[NVC IT Status]] - The [[CNVC IT Committee]]

[[CNVC Board]] - Working space for Board

[[CNVC LT]] - Leadership Team (LT)

[[CNVC GCC]] - GCC circle & Network Coordinators

[[Internet Relay Chat]] or [[Instant_Messaging_Network | NVCtalk]] - two ways to connect live about NVC

[[NVC Research Circle]] - NVC Research Information

[[NVC USA Project]] - planned the '06 NVC USA conference [[Compassion In Action]], may do another

[[American Summer Festival]] planning

==News==
*'''Description:''' [[CNVC Office Manager Position]] 3/08.
*About the '''[[CNVC Office Move]]''' from LA to ABQ.

==People using the wiki==
Photos and words - [[People using the wiki]]

</div>

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American Summer Festival

2008-09-26T04:08:35Z

John Abbe: reg info

User:John Abbe

2008-09-26T04:02:03Z

John Abbe:

[[Image:JohnAbbe.jpg|thumb]]

Contacting me:
* E-mail: johnca@ourpla.net
* Skype: johnca
* Often available on [[Internet Relay Chat]]
* also see http://ourpla.net/cgi/pikie?ContactMe

I've been learning and sharing [[NVC]] for a few years now. It's the best practice/theory/network i've found so far for learning/supporting people to have compassion (even for oneself! :-), and to inspire compassion from others.

Moved to Eugene, Oregon about a year ago, and am still familiarizing myself with the [http://orncc.net/eugene.html local NVC scene] but am ready to start offering more formal training (i've been doing what i can to support the local network informally).

I continue to support the [[Sandhi Institute]], remotely and by visiting Sri Lanka occasionally to help spread NVC there.

I'm also part of the [[NVC USA Project]] team; we organized the [[Compassion In Action]] conference for 2006, and hope to hand any future conference organizing off to others so that we can focus on other activities.

In 2004 i started developing some [[Learner centered differentiation exercises]].

Beyond NVC, i'm interested in the [[Process Arts]] in general.

I also juggle and ''love'' living in community.

You can find out more about me at http://ourpla.net/

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==Pseudo-blog==

Recently went twice to something called [[Heart of Now]] [http://lostvalley.org/hon]. They have some things that NVC would benefit from (community basis, use of touch, always more teachers/assistants than students), and vice-versa (depth of connecting to needs). --[[User:John Abbe|John Abbe]] 20:54, 22 June 2006 (CEST)

I regret missing the second NVC Wiki Day. --February 2006

I've been playing hookie from [[NVC Wiki Day]], but in a good (and related) cause - i've been talking with Linnaea Marvel, the organizer of the [[NVC World]] project. --[[User:John Abbe|John Abbe]] 06:17, 28 December 2005 (CET)

The last few days, i was away in Galle for an NVC training with students at the University of Ruhuna Engineering Faculty. Tantalizingly, there were Ethernet ports in the rooms at the guest house [http://sandhi.org/ we] were in, but we couldn't quite get the settings right - though we got as close as the [http://www.eng.ruh.ac.lk/ campus web server] (which ironically, i can't seem to access now). Probably just as well - i stayed more focused on the training than i would have been if i'd had net access. --[[User:John Abbe|John Abbe]] 26 December 2005

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Thanks to [[User:Simon_Smaluhn]] and [[User:Markus_Pallo]] for starting up this wiki.

American Summer Festival

2008-09-26T04:01:34Z

John Abbe: agenda for first call

A proposed agenda for the first organizing call: (Feel free to edit it here, or contact [[User:John Abbe|John Abbe]] to offer input.)

* Silence

* Check-in:
** whatever you need to say to help you be present, and
** briefly why you're excited about this

* The vision/invitation: An American NVC Summer Festival, in a different part of the Americas each year, with a culture that is leaderful - using Open Space, no formal/paid NVC teachers, with people taking turns facilitating after the organizers 'hold' the first couple of days - and family-friendly, inviting both individuals and families to reach across nuclear family boundaries for community-building, support and connection.

* Questions and Answers about the vision, and people's experience at the European NVC Summer Festivals

* Who, Where & When:
** do any of us want to be the main organizer(s) for a 2009 or 2010 summer festival?
** if not, explore and decide on next steps toward finding such people

* What else?
** other next steps if there's time & interest: who else to involve, money, etc.

* Scheduling next call(s)

* Check-out - celebration/mourning

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Related past/future gatherings:

[http://circlesofwisdom.org/circles.htm Circles of Hope]

[http://www.leaderful.newyorkintensive.org/description.htm New York Leaderful Gatherings]

[[BayNVC]] [http://www.baynvc.org/calendar/view_entry.php?id=CD2473&date=20080626 Family Camp]

[[NWCC]] [http://www.nwcompass.org/trainings/trainings.cgi?training_id=00425&td=yes Family Camps]

Next [[European Summer Festival]] is Sweden, August 9-16, 2009

American Summer Festival

2008-09-26T03:57:10Z

John Abbe: Agenda for first call

A proposed agenda for the first organizing call: (Feel free to edit it here, or contact [[User:John Abbe|John Abbe]] to offer input.)

* Silence

* Check-in:
** whatever you need to say to help you be present, and
** briefly why you're excited about this

* The vision/invitation: An American NVC Summer Festival, in a different part of the Americas each year, with a culture that is leaderful - using Open Space, no formal/paid NVC teachers, with people taking turns facilitating after the organizers 'hold' the first couple of days - and family-friendly, inviting both individuals and families to reach across nuclear family boundaries for community-building, support and connection.

* Questions and Answers about the vision, and people's experience at the European NVC Summer Festivals

* Who, Where & When:
** find out if any of us are interested to be the main organizer(s) for a 2009 or 2010 summer festival
** if not, explore and decide on next steps toward finding such people

* What else?
** other next steps if there's time & interest: money, outreach, etc.

* Scheduling next call(s)

* Check-out - celebration/mourning

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Related past/future gatherings:

[http://circlesofwisdom.org/circles.htm Circles of Hope]

[http://www.leaderful.newyorkintensive.org/description.htm New York Leaderful Gatherings]

[[BayNVC]] [http://www.baynvc.org/calendar/view_entry.php?id=CD2473&date=20080626 Family Camp]

[[NWCC]] [http://www.nwcompass.org/trainings/trainings.cgi?training_id=00425&td=yes Family Camps]

Next [[European Summer Festival]] is Sweden, August 9-16, 2009

Internet Relay Chat

2008-09-26T03:53:37Z

John Abbe:

Internet Relay Chat (IRC) is a live, instant messaging system that requires no registration. Much of the time there is someone into [[NVC]] on IRC who might enjoy giving you empathy, helping with questions about the wiki, or just connecting.

Web access to the chat is available by [http://ourpla.net/nvcchat.html clicking here].

There's also standalone software for IRC, here's what we recommend for different systems (to get to the channel with these systems, here's the server: irc.freenode.net and channel: #nvc):

* Mac - [http://colloquy.info/ Colloquy]
* Windows - [http://www.mirc.com/get.html mIRC], [https://www.ceruleanstudios.com/ Trillian],
* Linux - [http://www.kvirc.net kvirc], ksirc
* Cross-platform:
** [http://www.mozilla.org/projects/rt-messaging/chatzilla/ Chatzilla] (an <b>Add-on for [http://www.mozilla.com/firefox/ Firefox]</b>, which lets you just click on this link to connect: irc://irc.freenode.net#nvc )
** [http://gaim.sourceforge.net/downloads.php GAIM] (Linux and Windows)