Power-with vs. Power-over

Power-with:

Utilising 'Power-with' means we commit to the following core principle of NVC, 'The objective of Giraffe is never to get what we want. It’s the development of a quality of connection that allows everyone’s needs to get met.' - Marshall B. Rosenberg, 'transcript of 2-day advanced intensive', [1]. The other's needs enter into the equation, in our thinking and consciousness.

Power-over:

We are only interested in getting our own needs met, _without_ taking into account the needs of other parties, and act accordingly out of that energy. Typically by using demands or coercion, apportioning blame, or suchlike other jackalese tactics.