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‎Contribution, John Wiley, 2001 Concepts List

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‎Possible Contribution - 2001 Concepts List

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128.173.229.189 at 22:16, 3 November 2006

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== '''Agenda Items''' ==

<ul>
<li>More discussion of Core NVC Assumptions</li>
<li>What can we do about trainer-initiated anecdotal research.</li>
<li>Talk about retention research.</li>
</ul>

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	'''[[NVC Research January '07 Meeting]]''' Friday, January 5, 2007, 3 PM EST (12 Noon PST)		'''[[NVC Research January '07 Meeting]]''' Friday, January 5, 2007, 3 PM EST (12 Noon PST)
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−	~~==Contribution, John Wiley, 2001 Concepts List==~~
−	In case it might be of interest, here's a handout I prepared for a non-credit NVC college class in 2001. At that time I was interested in discovering implicit assumptions within the NVC process, and this list was my first attempt to combine those with major explicit concepts. Some items make general reference to a body of work or subject area, but not specific citations. I haven't reviewed this since then and it probably contains lots of irrelevant stuff, so feel free to delete it if not useful.
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−	~~===Underlying Concepts of Compassionate Communication===~~
−	~~:by John Wiley, 2001~~
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−	~~A. All people are inherently compassionate, but most have been trained in ways that interfere with it.~~
−	~~: Carl Rogers, altruism, heroism, transformational mediation~~
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−	~~B. All people share a small set of core fundamental Needs.~~
−	~~: Hierarchy of needs, interpersonal vs. intrapersonal priority of needs~~
−
−	~~C. Connection and self-actualization are fundamental human Needs, and both involve other people.~~
−	~~: Philosophical and spiritual factors~~
−
−	~~D. Needs come into conflict when they are unclear to either party.~~
−	~~: Any clarification of Needs is beneficial to the connection~~
−
−	~~E. We are all equal, as is the importance of our Needs.~~
−	~~: Humanitarian principles~~
−
−	~~F. We are each responsible for the origins of our own Feelings.~~
−	~~: Others can be no more than a stimulus for how we feel~~
−
−	~~G. We are each responsible for the expression and meeting of our own Needs.~~
−	~~: Projection or transferrence of responsibility damages individuals and relationships~~
−
−	~~H. Problems arise from ineffective (tragic) strategies for expressing and meeting Needs.~~
−	~~: Taking responsibility for meeting our own Needs is the first step in NVC~~
−
−	~~I. Communication is a process.~~
−	~~: Clarity arises from dialog focused on building connection~~
−
−	~~J. The NVC process shifts attention from our thinking, to what's alive in our hearts.~~
−	~~: Natural progression: Observations Ã° Feelings Ã° Needs Ã° Requests~~
−
−	~~K. NVC reframes our perceptions and behavior by placing focus on Feelings and Needs via questions.~~
−	~~: Active Listening or paraphrasing is not NVC, questions vs. assumptions~~
−
−	~~L. Judgment, guilt, duty, blame and shame all lead to disconnection and violence between people.~~
−	~~: Research on Shame/Rage spiral, benefits vs. costs of shame, high costs of coercion~~
−
−	~~M. Confusing our thoughts & strategies with Observations, Feelings and Needs leads to pain and conflict.~~
−	~~: Thinking who is what, deciding what people deserve, strategies based on inequality~~
−
−	~~N. Changing strongly reinforced learned behavior requires considerable motivation, time and practice.~~
−	~~: Alternative is conflict, violence and ultimately the end of civilization~~
−
−	~~O. "No" in response to an NVC Request is usually the most fruitful response.~~
−	~~: No means the other person isn't coerced and we/they aren't clear on Needs~~
−
−	~~P. Words are not required for communication, thus Intention is key to effective NVC.~~
−	~~: Nonverbal communication is pervasive & influential, Intention guides us & influences others~~
−
−	~~Q. All principles of NVC apply to interpersonal and intrapersonal communications.~~
−	~~: Practicing first on self leads to compassion for others~~
−
−	~~R. NVC Empathy is a process of clarifying Feelings and Needs via NVC dialog.~~
−	~~: Other forms of empathy may lead to conflict~~
−
−	~~S. Empathy is often required first for ourselves, before we have the capacity for giving it to others.~~
−	~~: Clarity on own Feelings & Needs enables "giving from the heart"~~
−
−	~~T. People progress from focus on rules and authority, to rebellion and on to interdependence.~~
−	~~: Harvey, submit or rebel vs. equality and abstraction~~
−
−	~~U. Language influences our perception and behavior.~~
−	~~: "I feel that..." or "I feel you..." are not Feelings, words that imply blame or judgment~~
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−	~~V. Vulnerability and appreciation are important in building connections between people.~~
−	~~: Differences between praise and appreciation, importance of expressing our Feelings and Needs~~

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	Susanne Jones and Tom Caruso had a discussion about Susanne's efforts to develop a research study on NVC at the Department of Communications at San Diego State University.		Susanne Jones and Tom Caruso had a discussion about Susanne's efforts to develop a research study on NVC at the Department of Communications at San Diego State University.
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		+	== Next NVC Research Circle Meeting ==
		+
		+	'''[[NVC Research January '07 Meeting]]''' Friday, January 5, 2007, 3 PM EST (12 Noon PST)

	==Contribution, John Wiley, 2001 Concepts List==		==Contribution, John Wiley, 2001 Concepts List==

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-==Possible Contribution - 2001 Concepts List==
+==Contribution, John Wiley, 2001 Concepts List==
 In case it might be of interest, here's a handout I prepared for a non-credit NVC college class in 2001. At that time I was interested in discovering implicit assumptions within the NVC process, and this list was my first attempt to combine those with major explicit concepts.  Some items make general reference to a body of work or subject area, but not specific citations.  I haven't reviewed this since then and it probably contains lots of irrelevant stuff, so feel free to delete it if not useful.

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−	Next Meeting December 10, 2006, 3 PM EST	+	Next Meeting Friday, December 8, 2006, 3 PM EST (12 Noon PST)

	== '''Agenda Items''' ==		== '''Agenda Items''' ==

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	<li>Talk about retention research.</li>		<li>Talk about retention research.</li>
	</ul>		</ul>
		+
		+	==Possible Contribution - 2001 Concepts List==
		+	In case it might be of interest, here's a handout I prepared for a non-credit NVC college class in 2001. At that time I was interested in discovering implicit assumptions within the NVC process, and this list was my first attempt to combine those with major explicit concepts. Some items make general reference to a body of work or subject area, but not specific citations. I haven't reviewed this since then and it probably contains lots of irrelevant stuff, so feel free to delete it if not useful.
		+
		+	===Underlying Concepts of Compassionate Communication===
		+	:by John Wiley, 2001
		+
		+	A. All people are inherently compassionate, but most have been trained in ways that interfere with it.
		+	: Carl Rogers, altruism, heroism, transformational mediation
		+
		+	B. All people share a small set of core fundamental Needs.
		+	: Hierarchy of needs, interpersonal vs. intrapersonal priority of needs
		+
		+	C. Connection and self-actualization are fundamental human Needs, and both involve other people.
		+	: Philosophical and spiritual factors
		+
		+	D. Needs come into conflict when they are unclear to either party.
		+	: Any clarification of Needs is beneficial to the connection
		+
		+	E. We are all equal, as is the importance of our Needs.
		+	: Humanitarian principles
		+
		+	F. We are each responsible for the origins of our own Feelings.
		+	: Others can be no more than a stimulus for how we feel
		+
		+	G. We are each responsible for the expression and meeting of our own Needs.
		+	: Projection or transferrence of responsibility damages individuals and relationships
		+
		+	H. Problems arise from ineffective (tragic) strategies for expressing and meeting Needs.
		+	: Taking responsibility for meeting our own Needs is the first step in NVC
		+
		+	I. Communication is a process.
		+	: Clarity arises from dialog focused on building connection
		+
		+	J. The NVC process shifts attention from our thinking, to what's alive in our hearts.
		+	: Natural progression: Observations Ã° Feelings Ã° Needs Ã° Requests
		+
		+	K. NVC reframes our perceptions and behavior by placing focus on Feelings and Needs via questions.
		+	: Active Listening or paraphrasing is not NVC, questions vs. assumptions
		+
		+	L. Judgment, guilt, duty, blame and shame all lead to disconnection and violence between people.
		+	: Research on Shame/Rage spiral, benefits vs. costs of shame, high costs of coercion
		+
		+	M. Confusing our thoughts & strategies with Observations, Feelings and Needs leads to pain and conflict.
		+	: Thinking who is what, deciding what people deserve, strategies based on inequality
		+
		+	N. Changing strongly reinforced learned behavior requires considerable motivation, time and practice.
		+	: Alternative is conflict, violence and ultimately the end of civilization
		+
		+	O. "No" in response to an NVC Request is usually the most fruitful response.
		+	: No means the other person isn't coerced and we/they aren't clear on Needs
		+
		+	P. Words are not required for communication, thus Intention is key to effective NVC.
		+	: Nonverbal communication is pervasive & influential, Intention guides us & influences others
		+
		+	Q. All principles of NVC apply to interpersonal and intrapersonal communications.
		+	: Practicing first on self leads to compassion for others
		+
		+	R. NVC Empathy is a process of clarifying Feelings and Needs via NVC dialog.
		+	: Other forms of empathy may lead to conflict
		+
		+	S. Empathy is often required first for ourselves, before we have the capacity for giving it to others.
		+	: Clarity on own Feelings & Needs enables "giving from the heart"
		+
		+	T. People progress from focus on rules and authority, to rebellion and on to interdependence.
		+	: Harvey, submit or rebel vs. equality and abstraction
		+
		+	U. Language influences our perception and behavior.
		+	: "I feel that..." or "I feel you..." are not Feelings, words that imply blame or judgment
		+
		+	V. Vulnerability and appreciation are important in building connections between people.
		+	: Differences between praise and appreciation, importance of expressing our Feelings and Needs

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		+	Next Meeting December 10, 2006, 3 PM EST
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	== '''Agenda Items''' ==		== '''Agenda Items''' ==